a new year is my fave

January 7, 2013

be kind to yourself
I have to admit it’s been hard for me to get into the spirit of the new year. At the beginning of 2012 there was so much to look forward to and it was a rather big year for my family. Now at the arrival of 2013, I look at my now 8 month old and want things to slow quite a bit. And I’m not quite sure what to expect this year, there’s nothing big pending like a birth. I guess I’ll have to create something exciting to look forward to.

I have decided to do something a little different for resolutions this year. Instead of making a massive list that motivates me for a couple days before I get completely overwhelmed by it all and say good riddance, I’ve picked a theme for the year and then I’ve written down one specific goal to focus on each month. This year I’m focusing on being kinder to myself, whether that means eating more vegetables, saying no to taking on too much work or complimenting myself more. Often I feel like I have the self esteem of a teenage girl who just got dumped and I want to change that around. So 2013, let’s do this.

What’s your main resolution for the year?

24 Comments »

 
  • On January 7, 2013 , Fany said:

    To be flexible… To let things just happen :)

  • On January 7, 2013 , Allison said:

    I may steal your resolution… I need to be kinder to myself as well. Why is it so hard?

  • On January 7, 2013 , The New Diplomats Wife said:

    i have a theme too – “light” for this year, light as in opposite of dark and opposite of heavy and trying to weave that into the little things i work on – i’ll report back to see how it goes! happy new year!

  • On January 7, 2013 , Angelica said:

    I like your idea of not making a massive list. I want to be more courageous! I need to let fear disappear and tackle things that arent’t really that hard, but for some reason my mind convinces me that it’s impossible to do so I give up even before trying.

  • On January 7, 2013 , kimberly said:

    i’ve chosen a word:stillness.
    i, too, have an eight month old boy and sometimes i can feel the busyness of this life (even as an at-home mom) whooshing by us, so i’ve decided to make an effort to slow down a bit and focus on these fleeting times.

  • On January 7, 2013 , Joy said:

    A friend told me her resolution is to follow the quote, “One of the secrets of a happy life is continuous small treats” — this probably ties in really well with being kinder to yourself. I love the idea of providing yourself with small treats all the time. Why not? It’s great motivation.

  • On January 7, 2013 , Gina said:

    To cultivate HABITS – slow and steady – and tracking my progress with this: http://seamlessdays.wordpress.com/2013/01/04/free-printable-2013-goals-habits-calendar/

  • On January 7, 2013 , Rachel said:

    So far, I have only one resolution — to get through January! January always finds me in a perpetual state of grey and cold, literally and figuratively. I consume too much sugar and caffeine this month, but at least it keeps me somewhat perky until February rolls around.

  • On January 7, 2013 , Andrea Freeman said:

    I love this resolution! I think it is the only sensible way not to make yourself crazy. I’m going to do the same. Thank you for your continued inspiration!

  • On January 7, 2013 , Stephanie said:

    I know this wasn’t a plea for us to all cry out how awesome you are, but I have to say it, “You are awesome!” This is one of my favorite blogs to read, but I never comment so now seemed like a good time to admit that I secretly wish you were somehow my best friend.

  • On January 7, 2013 , Nicole said:

    To waste less time. I just want to spend more time being conscious of the choices I’m making and less looking back and wondering where the time has gone.

  • On January 7, 2013 , Karen said:

    That’s a great idea to space out the resolutions over the year! One of mine is the same as last year (to visit at least 2 places I’ve never been before) & also to worry less.
    Just think of all the cool milestones Beck will have this year!

  • On January 7, 2013 , Emily said:

    I prefer the themed resolutions over the lists as well! This year my theme is to “listen” I want to talk less and listen to others as well as my own intuition/promptings a bit more.

  • On January 7, 2013 , PJ said:

    I did the same thing, as well. Since I NEVER keep my resolutions (no willpower + total procrastinator), I chose a theme to inspire me throughout 2013. You can read about it here! http://bit.ly/RwPs9w

  • On January 7, 2013 , Jeannie said:

    Yes, it’s so easy for our minds to beat us up. Think of your awesome work so far and how much you’re loved! :) I’ve never done NY resolutions. Rather, every Jan. I clear out my closets and shelves for books/clothes that I no longer wear to donate and give away. It’s like early spring cleaning. Very rejuvenating.

  • On January 7, 2013 , lisa g said:

    i hd just read his post and then read ours ad thought you might like this too http://thoughtcatalog.com/2013/how-to-fall-in-love-with-yourself/

  • On January 7, 2013 , lisa g said:

    umm sorry for those typos!

  • On January 7, 2013 , Aoife Wall said:

    I think this year is going to be great. It’s the first year in nearly five that I won’t be pregnant or breastfeeding. I’m starting a college course in a couple of weeks and am so excited to be focusing on myself for the first time in a long time. Hurray for me time!

  • On January 7, 2013 , Erica said:

    I love the idea of having a theme for the year and goals for each month that focus on the theme! I chose a theme word for 2013 and this seems like a fantastically practical way to stick to it. I’m also loving your theme, being kind to yourself is so important yet it’s sometimes the easiest to let slip. I hope 2013 is an absolutely wonderful one for you!

  • On January 8, 2013 , lisa said:

    this is a great idea. and what a great way to start your monthly goals! congrats!

  • On January 8, 2013 , Janssen said:

    I think my goal this year is to live mindfully.

  • On January 8, 2013 , Matt said:

    To decorate my house with some sweet metal prints from http://www.freshsquared.com!

  • On January 11, 2013 , Coco&Cowe »  Have a RAD Weekend! said:

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  • On January 12, 2013 , Amy said:

    I too love the idea of ‘themes’. In line with what Stephanie said, I think one of mine needs to be comment more on posts and blogs I like! I love reading your blog but don’t know if I’ve ever commented on here before. Sorry!
    I am feeling an immense need to purge my house and life of unnecessary things and get organised. So that is my first resolution of 2013! That and have faith (in myself!) as I am my own worst critic (like many of us creative types!). xxxx

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