reality

May 5, 2011

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While I don’t usually get personal on this blog, please indulge me for one day. I’ve mentioned that Ryan and are in the middle of a waiting game. One of the things we’ve been waiting for the longest is a baby. We’ve slowly come to realize that we are indeed infertile and it has become very much part of our everyday reality.

In my discussions with other women who have gone through the same thing, so many of them have told me, “I didn’t tell anyone about our infertility until after I was pregnant in fear that they wouldn’t understand. I wish I had had someone to talk to. I wish I had shared it sooner.”

This struggle is lonely for many. At the beginning, part of me was inclined to want to run and hide from it. Another part of me – because of many of you – wanted to seek out and identify with others who are experiencing what I am experiencing.

Thankfully, I have been able to lay some of my burdens on trusted and understanding loved ones and, as a result, feel some of the weight lifted. I believe in the power of sharing one another’s burdens. Because I have gained strength in being the recipient of a lot of support, I have felt that I need to do all that I can to help those going through the same thing.

I have started writing about my experience. I’ve joined the team of bloggers at Babble’s Being Pregnant blog.  This is an open forum where bloggers discuss all matters family, pregnancy, infertility, and mamahood. Many people may not choose to share something so personal but, because of the positives, I’ve felt strongly that this is the right decision for me.  Here are links to my first posts:

Hello, my name is Melanie and my husband and I are infertile
We need a cheering section
Ten things not to say to anyone suffering with Infertility EVER
What TO say

YAMF isn’t going to become Pregnancy Watch 2011. But I will link to my Being Pregnant posts a few times a month and you can feel free to read them if you’d like.

I’m going to take off early for the weekend, we’re going on a trip to NYC for a little getaway. But I’ll be back on Tuesday with the best birthday week ever. Thanks for reading.

Love,

Melanie.

image: Virginia Galvez

3 Comments »

 
  • On October 14, 2011 , Sarah Beauchene said:

    Your words are an eloquent description of the range of feelings whirled at you during this experience. I find myself still in the waiting game. With each doctor’s appointment, each new medical item that surfaces, and each disappointing moment, there is force transforming you into someone a little different every day. After years of sadness and frustration, I now choose to think it as a positive road (not taken by choice) that has also opened me up to being a better “supporter”, a more patient being, and someone who will be ever so grateful when the waiting game is over. I wish you the best.

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